Open, Barbie’s back, and how Jake De Pompeo helped me get my groove back.

When I started this blog, I promised myself it would show the good, the bad, and everything in between.  After all – this is an adventure.  And adventures don’t always go smoothly.  At least not the right kind…..

So, if you are checking this blog to see if we are open, we are!  All the way til 9  pm.  And we would love to see you!

If you are one of the kind few who read this blog to follow my adventure, let me tell you what has been happening – warts and all.  This is going to be a long post, you may want settle in and get comfy.

The restaurant is in a growth period.   This is never easy – I knew that going in.  But I did not see it turning the way it did.  You see – the universe has provided us with people to help out around here.  And it started wonderfully.  And then, things started to change.   And shockingly, people I thought would never act a certain way began acting…well, a certain way.

Suddenly, it was as if what I said did not matter.  I would ask for things to be done, not even big things.   I would come back hours later to find everyone sitting at the counter with it not being done.  When asking why, I got dismissive answers about how they forgot and then turned back to their conversation telling me they would get to it in a minute.  When trying to train people, I got blown off a bit.  When having ideas, they were simply talked over.  And keep in mind, I am far from a task monger.   And Ned did not back me up on it….which was a much bigger issue between us.   He did not see the correlation between the fact that we can have a collective here and still get things done.

I meditated on this, I attempted to fix it, I woke up every day and said ‘things will be different’.  They weren’t.

So, I took my toys and went home.   Not mature of me, but certainly sanity saving.  I needed time to figure this out.  I needed time to clear things in my soul.  I needed perspective.  And it came in the form of a 17 year old man – because the universe will always teach and always provide if we allow it to and are open to it.

During my week long absence, I missed the restaurant.  I would go down in the morning and try to meditate to leave good vibes.  I was too hurt to, though.

But it passed, Ned and I started talking in earnest about my feelings, about my place here, about the toll current events around here took on our marriage.   I came back to help out a bit.

But I came back because of  Jake De Pompeo.

See, I know why that girl who worked here for 5 hours left.  She left because of some disgruntled comments made by the people here in the kitchen when Ned was not around.

It is important for all of you to understand, I foster honesty here.  I try to let everyone know if there is an issue, tell me.  If you are unhappy, tell me.  If we can’t work it out – I wish you the best and that you find what makes your heart sing.  This is not your usual workplace.  This place is my heart, my journey, and I want people to take it with me happily.

So armed with the knowledge of what transpired, I asked people what was said, what they said.  Everyone hedged, one claimed “not remembering”, and overall fudged.  I had one person left.  Jake.

So when he came in early to help with the huge undertaking of baking for the farmers market, I asked him.  I was waiting for the same as the others.  Without missing a beat he told me everything.  And why.  He respected me enough to be honest.   He cared enough about what I am trying to build and who I am to level with me.   He was the only one.   But I only needed one.

He will never know with that simply honestly that came so naturally to him how he helped me.  I needed that – an honest man.  A glimpse of decency I didn’t know I craved so much until I had it.

The universe once again brought me full circle.  Showed me no matter how hurt I am, there are people that care.  That I must look beyond myself and my feelings and look at others.  To step outside myself, and once again seek the good in people.  It is easy to lose that perspective, and for a bit, I did.  But it is back, and I had a meeting with people here.  And I feel whole again, and can look for the good in them – and there is plenty.  Oodles, actually.

And I am happy.

And Jake, on your birthday today, know that at your young age you have made quite a difference for me and this place in just one simple conversation.    And the funny thing is, I bet you didn’t even know it when you did it.

Thank you.

And for everyone else, I am back!  And I have missed you – so please if you can, stop by soon and say hi.   Know that you are the reason that our walls vibrate with such good energy!

Peace,

Barbie

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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2 Comments

  1. Mary said,

    July 6, 2011 at 1:03 am

    I have tried really hard to get Jake to use the “honesty is the best policy” rule. I’m glad to hear you are feeling better. SUNSCREEN for the next Farmer’s Market!

  2. July 6, 2011 at 9:45 pm

    He does use it – and you have done a great job raising him. He is truly a very kind young man!

    My stove should be fixed today – so I will be sending him home with yummy things for you tomorrow!


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